Put your fork down between bites. I don’t know how many times I’ve read that strategy for losing weight. And I always gave that advice a nod and a ‘yeah, yeah’, but I never really tried it. I always thought of it as a behavior or a habit that I couldn’t quite change. But that changed when I read The Jean Nidetch Story by Jean Nidetch:
…people who are overweight still do the same thing. They hold on to the fork all through a meal. They never let go, because they’ve never learned how.
When I read those words, the light came on. I realized that, for me, holding on to my fork was more of an emotional attachment. It was a security blanket that I wouldn’t let go. No wonder I’ve had such a hard time putting down my fork. It wasn’t about changing a behavior, it was about changing my thoughts. It was about overcoming that emotional attachment and seeing the fork as a tool for eating rather than as my Excalibur against life’s pain and frustration. I will again be practicing letting go of my fork at least once each meal this week.
Can you let go of your fork this week?
Organizing Ideas for letting go of your fork
If you are eating with someone who eats slower than you, you could make a game or challenge yourself to:
- put your fork down if you see their fork down.
- sneak a peak at their plate when you’re half-way done and wait for them to catch up.
You could use your non-dominant hand to hold the fork. I’m thinking that this would not be a good one to try in public initially.